What if you could start your marriage with more than just hope?
What if you had the tools to really understand each other?
To talk about the stuff that actually matters—money, values, sex, boundaries, roles, dreams, and how you handle conflict when things get hard.
What if instead of walking in blindly, you walked in prepared?
Not because you're planning for failure.
But because you’re choosing to build something that lasts.
I didn’t create this because I had the perfect love story. I created it because I didn’t.
My first marriage was full of pressure, secrets, and exhaustion. I kept thinking if I just worked harder at love, it would all work out. But I was disappearing in the process. I'm now remarried and my husband had his own journey too. His first marriage ended in divorce followed by grief after years of trying to save someone he loved through addiction. He fought for his family until the very end, but love alone wasn’t enough.
When we found each other, we already knew the stakes. We weren’t looking for a fairytale. We were looking for something real. And what we’ve learned since is that love — deep, committed, lasting love — doesn’t just happen. You build it. From the ground up.
Now, as we raise teenagers who talk about marriage like it’s just the next thing you do, we both realize how important this work is. Because nobody teaches you how to do marriage well. Nobody teaches you how your childhood shapes your triggers or how much money, boundaries, or even dishes can become points of conflict if you don’t talk about them early.
As a coach, I’ve worked with women all over the world who gave everything to their relationships and ended up losing themselves. They thought they were doing it right. They thought love would carry them through. But they had no roadmap. No plan. No voice in the relationship. Just a vague hope that things would work out.